Whether you speak it out loudly, think concretely, or allow your background chatter to drift in your mind, you are talking to yourself all day long. Does that strike your mind? Talking to yourself? Yes, you’ve read it correctly. We all talk to ourselves, though writers do it more often than anyone else as they have little characters running in their brains all the while. If you assume the talk to be any kind of chat or thoughts peeping into your mind, remember, this talk can be both positive and negative. The talk can either encourage you to achieve your goals or drain you down into confinement. And since you aren’t aware of what you are talking to your mind and what it is accepting, you are bound to develop both positive and negative ideas in your mind. By pondering over your negative inflow of thoughts, you are giving way for more worries and self-criticism to enter your mind. However, if you learn the power of positive self-talk, you can surely bring in positive changes within you and become a better person from inside and outside. Walking through the road of life would be easier if the way is filled with support, unconditional love, accolades, and positives all the while. Conversely, the road can be a little tougher and difficult if punishment, cynicism, and criticism take an upper hand. Nevertheless, learning to believe in yourself and being confident of your capabilities can help you talk positive about yourself. Listed here are some simple steps for inducing positive self talk. Read on.
Positive Self Talk
Feel Your Mind
Surrounding your mind with all sorts of negative feelings and thoughts will drag you even more into tension and depression. By focusing your attention on positive, uplifting, and encouraging ideas, you will feel good and hence, will be able to speak out good as well. For instance, instead of talking to a cribber, talk to someone who radiates positive energy. This way, you would be powered by positivity all through without even doing any thing specific.
Observe Your Talk
Thoughts are generally stored in some corner of your mind and are not worked upon. As a result, they pile up into more thoughts, including negative, which restrict you from thinking freely. As such, consider your thoughts to be characters of a movie theater screen and place yourself as a third party to notice the happenings. By doing so, you will be able to see the situation the way it is. This will enable you to observe your thoughts and self-talk, thereby assessing the validity or lack in each thought or idea. Thereafter, visualizing negative feelings will be easier, allowing you to see the causes that trigger such upsetting self-talk.
If you have been fighting against negative self-talk, there are certain questions that can help you combat it and transform it into positive self-talk. What led you to this thought? Is there a better solution or way to handle the situation? What can you do to overcome this challenge? Is there any other potential outcome to this situation? What worse can happen while being in such a situation? What if the worst that can happen takes place, how will it affect you? Will the effect be bad or fatal? If you can find the answers to these questions, you’ll probably be able to bid adieu to negative self-talk, only to talk good and positive about yourself.
Re-frame Your Thinking
Just like how you have been enveloping yourself with negative thoughts, try giving it a positive spin and view the situation from a different perspective. For example, if you are continuously pestering yourself about arriving to office late or never being capable of receiving promotion, give your thoughts a different stand and analyze the situation again. Reframe the negative opinions into positive messages, like if you are arriving late to work, what can you do to come on time, from the next day. Similarly, if you are worried about not getting promoted, find out what you can do to make yourself noticed and proficient enough to be appreciated. Catch hold of your thinking and spin it with a positive approach.
Stop Your Thoughts
If you let your negative thoughts cover your mind completely, you are, in no way, proceeding towards converting them into positives. As such, whenever you are encircled with negative self-talk, stop your thoughts halfway by speaking out ‘Stop’ loudly, if you can. Signal your mind to change its frequency to positive thinking. Hence, the more loudly you say stop, the better it is for the mind to put a halt to off-putting thinking.
Your career, family life, and spiritual life will be flying high once you master the art of positive self talk. Once identified and noticed, you’ll only have numerous amazing new opportunities to explore! All the best!